The Intentional Yes – A Way to Simplify Your Holiday

While most of us can boast of very busy schedules year round, the holiday season is even worse.  There are pressures coming from all sides, end of the year deadlines at work, holiday parties, the pressure to find the perfect gift for everyone in your life, family obligations, traffic…the list could go on and on.

Rather than putting our heads down this holiday season and plowing through it let’s try something different.  Let’s slow it down, let’s take some time to enjoy it, revel in it and actually be merry!

How do we do this? Continue reading

Our Own Worst Enemy – Self-talk

We are our own worst enemy.  Do you believe that?  After years of studying human development, psychology, working as a therapist & doing my own personal work I’ve come to believe this as truth.  We tend to save our worst, most hateful words for ourselves, not our enemies and then we wonder why we are stressed, anxious, depressed & isolated.

Think about it…whose voice do you hear in your ear when you make a mistake at work, “screwing up again”?  Who is it that beats you up when you don’t like what you see in the mirror “you’ve got to lose weight & stop being lazy”?  What do you say to yourself when you’re not able to live up to the impossible standards you’ve set for yourself “I really should get it together”?  The words we use within our own minds, our self-talk, matters a great deal more than we give it credit.  Our words have meaning. Continue reading

Andrew Solomon: Depression, The Secret We Share

“The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality, and it was vitality that seemed to seep away from me in that moment.”

This is a moving and brilliant conversation about depression and it’s effects on the human spirit.  It’s is an illness, like any other, that impacts all areas of one’s life and ability to function.  It’s not merely just sadness or a bad day but an unrelenting dark cloud that drains away one’s ability to engage fully in their life.  Let’s work together to remove the stigma that prevents so many from asking for help!

[ted id=1894]

“The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality”

If you think you or someone you know may be struggling with depression, please know you are not alone and we want to help!  Check out our Depression Test to see if you or your loved one may be struggling with symptoms of depression.

Secondary Trauma & Remembering 9/11

9/11 MemorialToday we remember the lives lost that horrible day in 2001.  I’m sure that you, like me, remember exactly where you were when you found out about the attacks.  I was in my college Civil War history class.  I remember sitting in front of my tv for hours watching the footage, crying and worrying that it wasn’t over.  Since that day, I’ve never looked at a low flying plane the same way again, there is always a twinge of fear.  Every year on the anniversary, the same feelings of sadness and worry come back.  This is an experience of secondary trauma.

Secondary Traumatic Stress is defined as “the presence of PTSD symptoms caused by at least 1 indirect exposure to traumatic material.”

One indirect exposure to traumatic material…but we’re not exposed just once to traumatic events unfolding.  Our world is so connected, we see traumatic, real world events Continue reading

A Positive Body Image Amidst Fashion & Media

There is no denying that we live in a media saturated world.  This is a world which constantly bombards us with images that imply what every person should look like.  On every runway, fashion magazine, red fashion carpet and tv show, we are faced with the pressure to measure up.  This can have a major impact on our body image.

Always attempting to measure up to someone else’s standard of beauty is just asking for disappointment, misery and sometimes self-hatred.  I found a fantastic article on the impact of self-esteem and positive self-talk in the context of body image issues in today’s media saturated world.

The author outlines 4 tips that, if practiced, can help improve body image, no matter the pressures of the world.

This is a must read!!

STOP – Holiday Survival Tip #5

Christmas is finally here and on the morning of Christmas Eve many of us are making pies, baking hams, rushing to get those last minute gifts, running out to the store one last time because you forgot the green beans for the green bean casserole.  Yesterday I had 3 items I needed from the store and I ended up having to go to three different stores to find each!  It could have easily become a very frustrating afternoon, fighting traffic in and out of parking lots, standing in long check out lines and knowing I still had to make another stop, however it wasn’t frustrating or stressful.  I found myself smiling throughout and here is why… Continue reading