Self-Esteem: How Our Insides Effect Our Outsides

How does our self-esteem and body image effect our appearance? Does it really matter since what is supposed to really matter is what’s on the inside, right?

Yes, it’s true that what really matters is what’s on the inside but if our insides (our self-esteem and body image) are struggling then our outsides might begin to suffer. Think about when you have a cold, don’t you put less effort into your clothes, hair, and make-up? I know I certainly do!

Our Insides Effect Our Outsides

When we struggle with poor self-esteem or body image, we may begin to dress ourselves in a way to cover up or hide the body we don’t like. You wake up one morning feeling bloated and gross so you wear more loosely fitting clothes. Then you see your reflection in the mirror in the baggy clothes and think, “Ugh, I’m so fat!”; now you really feel bad about yourself on top of the bloat! Then you go to lunch and get the burger and fries b/c why bother trying it doesn’t matter what you eat, you’re just a hideous, bloated, fat cow. You eat the burger and fries then feel guilty for it because, after all, hideous bloated fat cows shouldn’t eat, ever. Maybe this Continue reading

Clumsy Accident or Self-Harm?

As we continue our series discussion on recognizing teen warning signs we are going to touch on two very scary and difficult areas, self-harm and suicide.  These are two teen epidemics that are getting a lot of media attention.  I want to pull the curtain back from all of the media hype and give you some straight forward information.  This post is a focus on self-harm, suicide will be the focus on the following post.

What is self-harm?

Self-harm is deliberate injury that a person inflicts on themselves. 

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Fickle Eater or Eating Disorder?

The previous two posts outline the signs and symptoms of depression and anxiety.  This post will explore the signs and symptoms of eating disorders.

There are two types of eating disorders, Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia Nervosa.  These are disorders that are considered symptoms of depression and anxiety, they are ways in which teens cope and ways in which they exert control over their life.

Anorexia as defined by the Mayo Clinic is:

“Anorexia nervosa is an eating disorder that causes people to obsess about their weight and the food they eat. People with anorexia nervosa attempt to maintain a weight that’s far below normal for their age and height. To prevent weight gain or to continue losing weight, people with anorexia nervosa may starve themselves or exercise excessively.” Continue reading

Depression or Just Being a Teen?

We’re kicking off a new series where we identify the warning signs of more serious mental health issues, such as depression or anxiety, that may be occurring in a teen in your life.  While some “growing pains” are to be expected as teenagers grapple with the challenges of growing up, dramatic, long-lasting changes in personality, mood, or behavior are red flags of a deeper problem.

Depression – Constant state of worry over the past, feeling stuck or living in the past.

If you’re unsure if an adolescent in your life is depressed or just “being a teenager,” Teen Warning Signsconsider how long the symptoms have been present, how severe they are, and how different the teen is acting from his or her usual self.

  • Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and making decisions
  • Fatigue and lack of energy
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and helplessness
  • Hopelessness and pessimism (frequent episodes of crying)
  • Insomnia, early morning wakefulness, or excessive sleeping (teenagers normal sleep habits)
  • Irritability, restlessness, anger, hostility
  • Loss of interest in previously enjoyed activities and hobbies (lack of enthusiasm)
  • Overeating or complete lack of appetite
  • Persistently sad, anxious, or empty feelings
  • Thoughts of death or suicide attempts
  • Physical ailments that do not ease with treatment (headaches, sore muscles, etc.)
  • Isolation, withdrawal from family and friends
  • Poor hygiene

If you’ve noticed the above symptoms in your teen over the last few months there may be a more serious issue going on.  Please know you are not alone and help is available.  Contact us today, we would love to help you and your teen through the difficult journey of adolescents.

Come back next week when we will take a look at anxiety.

A Positive Body Image Amidst Fashion & Media

There is no denying that we live in a media saturated world.  This is a world which constantly bombards us with images that imply what every person should look like.  On every runway, fashion magazine, red fashion carpet and tv show, we are faced with the pressure to measure up.  This can have a major impact on our body image.

Always attempting to measure up to someone else’s standard of beauty is just asking for disappointment, misery and sometimes self-hatred.  I found a fantastic article on the impact of self-esteem and positive self-talk in the context of body image issues in today’s media saturated world.

The author outlines 4 tips that, if practiced, can help improve body image, no matter the pressures of the world.

This is a must read!!

The Internet’s Role in Eating Disorders Among Teens

The Internet's Role in Eating Disorders Among Teens“A disturbing feature of anorexia is the rivalry that can occur between “ana-buddies” who meet on the websites and vie with each other to starve themselves to the point where their lives may be in danger.”

A quote from a scary article highlighting the constant barrage of having the “perfect body” that is pushed on our young people daily.  Continue reading